It has come to that time when my little one is telling me he is doing a poo. Yes, a bit personal, but something I am sure you have faced, if you are a parent that is! For those of you who are not parents, sorry about the poo talk!
We are not fully into toilet training, but Taj does like to let me know when it is happening or after the fact. We have successfully had four trips to the toilet, which he has loved. This is in the last week. However, we have come to a halt. Taj has decided that it is a little overrated and he would rather stay away from me when he has a dirty nappy. But then he has his moments when he does not even need to go and he is running for the toilet, putting the toilet insert on and starting to take off his pants. I am thinking he is obsessed with toilet flushing!
I toilet trained Keely quite young. She was very interested at 18 months and I went with the flow. We had our accidents here and there, but nothing to get concerned about. We still have some accidents today if she gets a little excited and she still wears a nappy to bed.
I think parents get scared of the whole toilet training stage, when really we should be going with the flow and go with what our children are telling us. So what if they are in nappies until they are 3. Who cares if your child is 4 and still wearing nappies to bed while their friends are not. There is this big perception that we have to have our little ones at the same stages with their individual developments. I find this mother olympics quite interesting as we all compete to have the child that is out in front. When really we should be sitting back and enjoying watching our children develop at their pace. They grow up so fast that the time we stress about their development compared to the child standing next to them we could be enjoying being a parent and spending time loving their accomplishments.
I know when I first joined my mother's group I was a little overwhelmed. There was a lady in our group who was talking about sleeping and how she was reading 3 different books, each saying different things. She continued to talk about how stressed she was as she did not know what was the "right" thing for her to do. This was the moment where I decided that I would not buy any books to help with my parenting. Especially to buy 3 that conflict with each other! In the end I have learnt that being a mother is a beautiful time. It is a time we should enjoy, even all the chaos and tears that come with parenting. There are so many lovely moments that they create; it is time to enjoy being a mummy! I am sure the lady in our mother's group is a fantastic mum. We are all trying to do the best we can for our children, and that is what she was doing.
I am not sure when Taj will be toilet trained, and if I am going to push it a little. For now I am going to enjoy watching him obsess over flushing the toilet, hiding from me when he has done a poo, and enjoy those moments where he does do a poo on the toilet.
Enjoy being a mum or dad!