I kind of feel a little like a bad mother; a bad party mummy. I have not organised a shin dig for Taj's second birthday. I am not even going to make him a special kiddy cake. It may sound awful, but every year I have made a kid cake. I have thought about a rough theme and rolled with it. This year I thought I would roll with making him what he actually loves. No character cake. Am I failing at the whole kiddy birthday party? Oh how I hope I am not.
Taj really does not have his own friends. He has a girlfriend, Rosie, but beyond that he really just hangs with the little people down the beach. So to me a party would be more an adults party, and it is not about us, it is about him. A nice quiet cake, (awesome Taj cake), and the ones that love him will be enough this year.
I have a day, one day. A day to decide if I am being a party pooper.
One of mine is turning 7 on Sunday...he didn't have one last year and I haven't organised one for this year either! Usually just have a few family members over for pizza and cake, and maybe take him to the movies. He's fine with that!
ReplyDeletechocolate cake decorated with smarties is always a winner. taj seems like such a chilled little dude who would be more than happy to kick back with just a handful of people and celebrate in a low key kinda way. we just had a family thing for my boy's 2nd. he was MORE than happy with that. happy bday taj-man! x
ReplyDeleteMine is turning four and I have never done the kid party thing - I just take her somewhere that (at least now she can talk) she says she wants to go and a few of my friends might come over to see her. It has taken her a while to get some friends her own age and I can't be bothered paying for a bunch of grown ups to drink it up at my childs birthday - if that makes me a poooper I will own that!
ReplyDeletenot a party pooper mummy at all! I've got a first birthday coming up and I just wanted it to be about my little man playing with his little friends.. however its somehow blossomed to include most of our friends too!! so next year I'm doing exactly what he likes to do on his special day, and it will be ALL. ABOUT. HIM!
ReplyDeleteI am with you Hayley. I just had a small afternoon tea with family for my girls 2nd birthday. I think the little ones get a bit overwhelmed and really don't understand the whole birthday thing yet anyway. In any case iyou don't need to throw a big shindig and spend pots of money to show your little ones how much they are loved xx
ReplyDeleteAfter going all out for our first child, I am just over parties. My daughter didn't get a 1st birthday party last year, and I am not even sure about this year. I am almost of the opinion now that until she starts to ask, I won't make a big deal out of it. I feel awful about it, but parties just wipe me out....
ReplyDeleteI've only been to a small handful of kiddy parties but they always seem to be more about the adults. I think the cake you want to make for his is rad, he's gonna love it. A chilled out birthday is way more his style. xx
ReplyDeletePS. Rosie sends her love.
Hayley you are not a party pooper at all. Some mums really enjoy planning the whole party, others don't, it doesnt matter what others do for their kids parties or what they think, its about whatever you think Taj would love, you can make your own traditions / special things to do for your kids birthdays and whatever that is... party or no party, thats what they will look forward to each year. A mum commented on my facebook the other day telling me she fills her sons room with balloons and streamers so when he wakes up he feels special, they then have cake for breakfast, i thought that was such a great idea to make a child feel special (if they love balloons of course).
ReplyDeleteI love balloons sarah, and so does taj! we are lucky as every year their grandma sends them balloons. So he will be getting the balloons and cake on his birthday. Not sure about at breaky yet, but I would never say no to cake at anytime of the day, and I am sure they wouldn't either! x
ReplyDeleteOh, I'm glad I'm not the only one Hayley. Poppy's 4th birthday is a few weeks away and then Oscar turns 1 a fortnight later. How did I manage that?!!! I am not into the whole styled party theme for kids - Poppy wants to have a bbq at the park so that's probably what we'll end up doing. Very relaxed!!!
ReplyDeleteI'm sure that whatever you decide to do it'll be fabulous! Taj is such a super-sweetie. Don't you just think they grow up too fast though....
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I agree with Mama Bear, half the effort is for the adults so just focus on Taj and don't worry about the cake (except maybe if its for breakfast) because that sounds pretty cool!
ReplyDeleteNo way! You're not being a party poopey. I say keep it super simple and non-stressy. And like you say, it becomes more about the adults than the kidlets, and that sometimes stinks!
ReplyDeleteHe will just love simple things, a cute cake. Balloons. Fun to the max.
He'll still turn 2 without a huge party. My 4 have a party every 2nd year so it's spread out as all of them still like the big 30 class mate kind of bash at home, which is lovely. Pace yourself, you have a long way to go!! Some years my guys say they don't want a party, a little party of me does a skip. Love Posie
ReplyDeleteI agree with all the other ladies, it is Taj's day and having a bunch of adults standing around drinking wine and eating your food takes away from your little man. I think what you have planned is lovely and intimate. There is always time for big soirees, when he is older and has his own little mates. You're not a party pooper at all.
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