Have you ever been told how to parent your children? I have. I actually have several times. Mostly by people who obviously think they are experts in parenting. People that assume they know my children. That know me. That believe they think they know what is best for them. I am sure you all answered yes. I don't think there is a mother around that would have said no. If there is, well lucky you! You have been given the best card in mother monopoly.
I was told over the weekend.
"Pick him up. You are spoiling him. Children these days are spoilt. Pick him up and let him have his tantrum. Take him in your home and let him let it all out. Teach him he cannot have it his way. Children get everything given to them. They are wrapped in cotton wool. That is the problem, children have rights, they should not have rights. What happens if he has the tantrum in the middle of the road, are you going to leave him there for a truck to ride over him."
I personally believe with my children it suits them best to ride it out. Taj just lays there. Lays in silence. When he is ready he tells me he wants a cuddle. I pick him up and it is all over. I have been told this is spoiling him. I should pick him up, let him kick and scream and take him inside my home and let him scream his head off in there. Teach him it is not the right thing to lay on the ground and have his moment. We are spoiling our children. So I have been told.
I believe we all have our way of parenting. Every child is different. I believe I am not spoiling him. I also believe they need to let off their steam. I buy a coffee and take a deep breath, sometimes several, or I walk, or run. That is how I let off my steam. That is my tantrum. He needs to have his. He needs to let it out. I am lucky he lets it out in silence. If I pick him up then he lets the legs fly and screams. So why would I pick him up?