It has been a while since I spoke about the search for my biological father, and yesterday to my surprise I received a phone call with the progress on the search. Last I had heard was that I needed to write a letter to him, including some recent images and once they found where he was living they would post this with a formal letter that they write to him.
The phone call was received late in the afternoon when I had the little ones down the beach. It was super windy and the kids were having a great time kicking the soccer ball around on the concrete. The lady introduced herself and we got talking in general and she then told me that my biological father had his name down on the reunion registry. This meant that if I ever put my name down that we would then be in contact. When you fill out all the forms to start searching for your biological parents there is a form that you can tick and sign to say you would like your information to go on the registry and if a match is found they will contact you. I guess with it being so long since I first started the search I was not expecting this call. I thought they would have known this information instantly.
As I said it was super windy and the lady commented at how windy it was and it was hard to hear me. She asked if she could ring me when it was easier to talk. I then told her I could hear her fine and she was not allowed to ring me with this news and then call me back later! Seriously, would you hang up when someone had told you that there was hope you would be meeting your biological father?
Having a terrible childhood with my adoptive father, this was the news I had been waiting for and to know he had his name down shows that he does want to meet me. I also need to not get too excited as his life may have changed since registering and he may now not want to meet me. I do have hope though, you just have to. I know I hope a little for the perfect father, but really who wouldn't after having their childhood innocence taken away from them?
From here they get in contact with him from the address he had left them. They send him a letter informing him that they have found me and that I would like to be in contact and then we wait and hope that he then contacts them. It will be within the month. Yes, only a short 4 weeks and I will know if he wants to be a part of my life. As you could imagine the emotions I am feeling are overwhelming. There is excitement, fear and a lot of hope. I am thinking about my mum so much right now as I know she wanted this to happen for me. I wish she was here in real life to be with me as it all unfolds, but I know she is still here holding my hand.
I was allowed to tell him a few things, well they tell him for me in the letter that they post him. I of course had to mention that I have two children. I now have hope that I will be in contact with him.
My father's name is Robert!
I wonder if he is known as just Robert, or Rob, or Bob?